Wearing our Pixie Style Scrub Caps

Since we’ve been getting a ton of orders for our scrub caps for women with longer hair, I thought I’d throw together a quick blog post that walks you through putting it on, in case you are confused when you get it.   (want one? Get them here.)

The cap looks giant when it arrives. Don’t panic.

Start off with a tidy ponytail or bun for your hair. Don’t be like me. I had the messiest mess back there. It was a disaster.

Find the front center – it’s more or less opposite the back. 🙂

Put that part up to your forehead.

Smooth it around over your ears. Is it wierding you out that the letters are backwards? I couldn’t figure out how to flip the image in my image editing program.

I like to hold the cap at the place where the ribbons come out with one hand and the ribbons with the other hand and pull snug at this point. Don’t be me – tuck that hair up inside.

Make a knot. (Note: My cap is made just a smidge different from the ones I sell – it’s looser here at the bottom because it does NOT have the same elastic placement as the ones I sell. I made that design change after I made this cap and gave away the second round of samples…)

At this point, you may finish off with a bow.

Or you can pull those ribbons back up over your ponytail. (OK, but don’t wear a ponytail in the middle of your head for this like I am. Obviously this photo shoot was super impromptu and not thought out. Also, sorry I’m tilting my head down…)

And tie a bow on top of your ponytail.

My goodness, I’m sloppy.

Thriving on Home SubQ Infusions for your Child

Have you just learned that you will need to start home subcutaneous infusions with your child? Are you new to home infusion? It can feel overwhelming and scary, but you’ll soon find the process isn’t difficult and it’s easier, cozier, and less germy than dragging your kid to the hospital or clinic for infusions!

We were recently able to switch back to home subcutaneous (subq) infusions after doing in-hospital IV infusions for 6-8 months. While I didn’t mind letting someone else do all the work for a change, having to drive 4 hours round trip and spend several hours in the infusion suite on a regular basis was getting pretty old. We’re both happy to be back on home infusions!

Starting home infusions can feel intimidating at first but, like everything else, it’ll soon become routine. Here are our top tips for learning and thriving on home subq infusions.

1. Do it the same time, every time.

I don’t know about you, but I thrive on routine. I am less likely to make mistakes or forget things when I do them the same time, every time. I set things up in the same room, in the same place. I get out the supplies, look them over, sort them the same way every time (things I need to get ready for the infusion, things I need for the actual stick, things I need for wrapping up the infusion), etc. And I do the process exactly the same way, every time. The more routine it becomes, the less likely I am to forget something important.

I don’t need to for infusions, but if it’s helpful, write out the steps in a way that makes sense to you and set it where you can see it while you prepare. Your infusion supply company, or the manufacturer of your infusion medications, probably supplies some sort of training materials that include a checklist, as well, but feel free to write your own if theirs don’t work for you. Just don’t leave anything out!!

2. Put it on your calendar.

Schedule your infusion day like you schedule everything else. We have a lot of flexibility as far as what time of day we can do my son’s infusions, but we still need to do them on the same day every week, so I have it in my calendar as any other appointment. It not only ensures I don’t forget, but also helps to make sure we don’t overschedule on that day and end up infusing at midnight or something.

3. Set up code words or mantras

I don’t mean code words, like using baby names for the process. I don’t personally believe there’s any benefit to making up innocent sounding substitutes for medical words. (Like nurses sometimes say “arm hug” instead of “blood pressure.” That’s idiotic IMO.) We call the infusion an infusion, and the needle a needle, but our code word (or phrase) is “it’ll hurt for just a minute, then it’ll feel better.” He needs me to say this every time. He will ask every time. “How long will it hurt?” and I am to respond “it’ll hurt for just a minute, then it’ll feel better.” We have a few little call-and-response tidbits like that we use for various medical things – it’s like a mantra that’s reassuring both for the information as well as for the predictability.

4. Have a preferred activity, snack, drink, or treat

Subcutaneous infusions involve a fair amount of sitting around with a needle stuck in you. I usually offer up a treat of some sort. A movie or TV show of his choosing, a device he wants to play on, an activity he likes to do, a sibling to come play with him while he sits, stories of his choosing. A special snack. If I did infusions on myself, I’d sure set myself up with a snack, drink, and preferred activity!

5. Figure out what time of day works best

Though we’ve done infusions at other times as necessary, we eventually figured out that doing infusions right before bedtime was ideal. He’s already winding down, the routine of getting into bed and being still was already established, but being allowed to watch TV or play on devices is enough of a treat to make it seem special. Maybe Saturday mornings work best for your family. Or some afternoon after school. If you homeschool, perhaps starting an infusion at the start of the school day would work best. Play around and figure out what works best for your family.

6. Find a comfy spot

Let your kiddo pick where they want to be for their infusion. We usually do infusions in the bedroom, which is comfy and where all our supplies are located, but occasionally we’ve done them in front of the Xbox, lol, and sometimes in the family room while we all watch a movie together. He’s the one who has to sit there, so he gets to pick where to go.

7. Play Therapy

Ask your supply company to send some extra tubing and dressing so your child can give a toy an infusion or two – either before you get started, or while you do his infusion, or after you finish up. Teddy likes to wrap up each infusion by giving several of his favorite stuffed animals their own infusions, and we keep a box of supplies for this purpose.

What ways have you found to thrive on home subq infusions?

All my Hot Tips for Surviving an Outpatient Infusion with your Child

Infusion days. Ugh. I mean, who WOULDN’T want to spend hours sitting in a chair, hooked up to an IV? Especially a child? Not my kid, and I’m guessing not your kid, either. But I’m here to help you get through it. Hopefully. Let’s be honest, it’s still going to kind of suck, right? But here are my very best tips for surviving a long infusion day.

Prepare yourself for the IV or port access

How bad is it going to be? We’ve experienced the gamut here. From terrified port access, to fighting IV access, to mostly sitting still and letting them poke him. Make an honest assessment of how hard it’s going to be, and prepare yourself appropriately. You. Not your kid. You. Prepare YOU. Take a deep breath. Go to that place where you go when you need to grit your teeth and just power through. Lock those emotions up somewhere safe and deal with them later. Promise yourself beer later. Give yourself a pep talk. Cry in private before you get there. Whatever you need to do for you, do it.


Prepare your child for the infusion.

You know your kid best. Some kids do better with advance warning, at least a few hours. Some kids do better finding out immediately before something happens. Give as much information as they can handle, to whatever extent it will help them. Teddy and I have found that he prefers a quick overview of what’s going to happen EACH TIME. Even Infusion #15. He knows what’s going to happen as well as I do, but he likes to go over it. “When we get there, we’ll go to the library and get a book, and then we’ll go up and say hi to (the check-in lady). When (our usual nurse) comes, we’ll go back in the room, get your weight and some Sprite and they’ll check your blood pressure and get everything set up, and then (the child life lady) will come and the nurse will put in your IV. It’ll hurt, but just for a little bit and then it’ll feel better. Then we’ll just sit there for a few hours, and you can play on your iPad, and they’ll come do your blood pressure, and you’ll get a prize, and then we’ll go home!” He likes me to repeat the part about it’ll only hurt for a minute and then it’ll feel better, and we also usually review sitting still and people holding his arm down, and that he can choose to watch or he can choose to have them count. We usually have to go over all of this information a few times.

Prepare your child for the poke

Whether it’s IV placement or port access, infusions tend to involve needles and being held still. Even if your child has a PICC or Broviac or similar, they still need to hold still while everything is sterilized and the line is accessed. I can’t imagine how awful it must feel to be a child being held immobile by adults with needles. Even if they’ve done it a hundred times, it still can’t feel great. Does your child do best with a pep talk? Distraction? Talking them through it? Cold? Numbing cream? J-jet? Cold spray? Sitting by themselves? Sitting on your lap? Laying down? Snuggling with you? Try all of the options that sound good to your kid and let them discover what works best for them. Through trial and error, we’ve found that Teddy does best with less fuss and no pre-treatments. It’s weird. But I think he’d rather just get it over with.

Pack All The Things

No, really. How long are you going to be there? We’ve never had an infusion last less than 3 hours. And then, for us, about 4 hours of driving, as well. Bring the things for your kid. Bring more than you think you’ll need. I usually bring activities, schoolwork, and some toys, and he packs some stuffed animals, and we bring snacks (and his tube feed). And obviously also his tablet. And bring the things for you. I bring a book (or Kindle) for me, a notebook, knitting, and sometimes my laptop. And chargers. And drinks. #packallthethings   I usually walk in to our infusions with my regular backpack, plus his backpack, plus an extra bag. I look like a hoarder. But we’ve yet to run out of things to do.


Be prepared for sensory needs

Does your child have sensory needs? Or do they just get really squirreley sitting with an IV? Be prepared for this. Teddy tends to need breaks to run and engage in other gross muscle activities, but that’s not practical on infusion days. A, we’re really not supposed to leave the room and B, he’s all hooked up to an IV pole. So, we adapt. We get up every once in a while and do some moving around things like jumping and dancing. He also really responds to deep pressure and soothing movement when he’s having a particularly hard time.

Does your child use a weighted blanket that helps in stressful situations? Bring it. A compression shirt? Wear it. Fidgets? Bring them. Does your child use headphones or music to address sensory concerns? Bring them. Don’t be afraid to turn the lights down or off, if that will help.

Take advantage of Child Life and other hospital amenities

Most hospitals that do infusions on kids are big enough to have a child life department. Use them. They can help with the poke part, they can bring in toys or devices or games, they can sometimes even send someone in to play with your child. Some hospitals have an area in the infusion center where child life is stationed and kids come to them, and some hospitals prefer to keep the kids in their own rooms and send child life to them. However your hospital works, ask your nurse what the options are!

Does your hospital have other amenities? Ours has a patient library that will give a free book to every child each visit – and we always stop to get a new book before infusions if they’re open.


Prizes and Rewards

These are distinctly different, but often confused, so I’m lumping them together. In my house, a prize is a small treat or toy that is not earned. It just is. I usually bring a small prize to infusions – something that cost a few dollars, max, and that will be interesting enough to keep him busy for a little while. A Hot Wheel, or some playdough, a small toy of some sort, or some sort of new activity. A new maze book, or a small puzzle, or a game of some sort.

We also usually wrap up with another prize – or, really, it’s just lunch but it’s framed as a prize/treat. We always “get” to go to McDonald’s afterwards. (The reality is, it’s lunchtime or past it when we leave and we have to eat anyway, and McD’s has cheap ice cream that he’ll eat.) But it’s always been presented as a special treat, and he sees it as a special treat, and that’s all that matters.

You can also choose to do a reward. I don’t usually like to reward in medical situations. I feel like he does the best he can with most situations, and if he’s misbehaving, it’s usually because he’s not getting some need met, and I don’t feel that a reward is fair nor effective for Teddy in medical situations. But your kid might be different, and if rewards do work well for your kid in medical situations, go for it!


Don’t forget siblings

Obviously, you won’t forget them, but if you’re bringing siblings to infusions, you’ll not only need to consider their needs in terms of stuff (snacks, activities) but also in terms of their emotional needs. It’s stressful for brothers and sisters to watch their sibling being hurt, even when they know it’s for a good reason. Be sure to let siblings know that they can wait elsewhere during the hard parts if they want. Alternatively, maybe they want to help. Each of my kids has gone through a phase of feeling very important because they were the ones who got to help distract Teddy during a medical procedure. They each took their job very seriously.


Well, there you have it. My best tips for infusion days. Please comment with YOUR tips!

Remaking the Holidays

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For many of us with not-quite-typical kids, holidays can be a stressful time. Different food, different mealtimes, houseguests, travel, extra activities, so many people, and so much busy-ness.

Does that work for you and your family? If so, that’s fantastic. Keep at it. Don’t change a thing.

But maybe, instead, you feel stress. Or the ever-present worry that you’re not doing enough. Or maybe that you’re doing too much. Or that you’re missing something. Or that you could be enjoying this season more than you are. Or that your KIDS could be enjoying this season more than they are.

How do you fix this, though?

At the risk of getting a particular song stuck in your head, I think you have to start by letting it go. Let it ALL go.

Just dump it all.

Build your holiday season from the ground up.

I wanted to say “build your perfect holiday season from the ground up,” but that’s not really very realistic. For many of us, what our kids can handle – or what is safe for our kids – conflicts with what we parents really want. So let’s let go of that, too. Let go of the idea of a perfect holiday.

How about “build your realistically doable and emotionally comforting holiday from the ground up”?

I bet you’d like this next part to be all about how you do that. But I don’t know how you do that. I mean, I can make it sound all easy – balance your needs and your kids’ needs and do what works best for you!!

Of course it’s not that easy. I don’t know how you finish. But I do know you start by letting go of all of the “should” statements about the holidays. “We should (whatever).” Let them go.

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For our family, we still do a few of the “should” things. We have local family and we should see local family at Thanksgiving and Christmas. But we are able to accommodate Teddy’s needs (and the needs of the other kids) into our “should”ing. For example, when we host Thanksgiving, Teddy is not required to be in the rooms with all the people the whole time. He can hide out in his bedroom with a timer for a while, but then he has to join the group for a while (usually with a timer) and we go back and forth like that. He needs practice with groups of people, but it gets overwhelming quickly. This strategy helps integrate my husband’s need to celebrate holidays with his family and our son’s need to get a break from the overwhelm of too many people in his home.

We’ve completely let go of most Christmas “should”s. We should go enjoy some of the holiday events in our community…but there are so many germs and honestly few of our family really enjoy those things.  We should go to Christmas Eve service…but so many people go to church on Christmas Eve when they’re sick and it isn’t worth getting the flu for. We should visit more far-flung family…but travel is hard and I really don’t enjoy it.

Instead, we focus on activities that we all enjoy and that are realistic for our family at this phase in our lives. We make Christmas cookies, because all three kids (plus an extra kid who lives next door!) really enjoy this activity and it’s doable for me without too much stress. We do a handful of Christmas crafts, but we abandon them quickly if the kids aren’t interested. We watch a lot of Christmas movies and we have a good time with snack food while we decorate our Christmas tree.

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It’s easy to think we should have more decorations, but we don’t enjoy the process of decorating, we really don’t enjoy the process of un-decrating, and extra decorations don’t add anything to our daily happiness… so we don’t do it. I used to think we should do more service projects over the holidays, since that’s the thing to do, but it’s actually easier for us to do service projects and volunteering when it is NOT Christmas – and service organizations are usually in more need of volunteers at other times of the year, anyway. Maybe we should spend more time with extended family, but it’s better for us as a family to spend that time together with just us. We don’t get enough relaxed “just us” time as it is. Most people believe they should keep presents a secret. But that doesn’t always work for us. Knowing there are secret presents in the house REALLY bugs Teddy. So we let him know what some of his presents are in advance, and keep the rest a super secret. Once he knows what a few of them are, he’s less anxious about the whole present thing and can enjoy the anticipation.

This is what works for our family. What works for your family? Why don’t you try letting go of all the “shoulds” of the holiday season and give yourself the freedom to find out?

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12 Tips for Work at Home Moms of Babies and Toddlers

Working from home is both amazing and amazingly stressful. You get to be home with your kids while contributing to the family income, but you also have to do the work of contributing to the family income while taking care of your kids. It’s awesome and hard all at the same time.

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I’ve been there and done that through all three of my kids – two essentially regular kids and one kid with complex medical needs – and I’m here to share my wisdom! Take what you can use, leave the rest.

Establish a predictable rhythm

Notice I didn’t say “schedule.” I think every other “how to be a work at home mom” article I’ve ever read tells you to get that baby on a schedule. But I am one of those moms who doesn’t believe babies operate on a schedule, and I don’t operate on one, either. But you’ll both do better with a predictable rhythm to your day.

How do you establish this? Start with any hard and fast regular time commitments. Need to start dinner around 4:30? Like to get out of bed at 6 am? Whatever your established times are, build your day’s natural flow into that. First breakfast, then personal care, then play time with the baby, then a short work period, then lunch, then more work time with breaks as needed, then start dinner at 4:30. You don’t need a schedule with set times, which can lead to feeling overwhelmed and behind, but having a predictable rhythm has several benefits. First, it helps your child(ren) know what to expect from the day. Second, it helps ensure you do the things you need to do. If you always do work after lunch, it just becomes a habit and you’re less likely to put it off and get backed up in your work. Third, it gives you a general sense of how your day will go. If your child is generally quiet and content in the afternoons, for example, you know this is the best time to work, and this is NOT a good time to schedule a pediatrician appointment.

Plan to be interrupted

I mean, it’s just going to happen. When kids are young (babies, young toddlers), they literally cannot wait patiently. In my experience, when I was working while caring for babies and young toddlers, things seemed to go easier, better, and faster if I just accepted the interruption immediately and handled whatever it was. A feed, or a diaper change, or some interaction. Feed the baby while they’re still relatively happy, and all you have to do is feed them. Wait until they’re really unhappy about it, and now you have to calm them down AND feed them – your interruption is twice as long. (Yes, I’m kind of referring to your kid as an interruption.)

Plan for uninterrupted times

As your baby gets older, naptimes will start to become less frequent but longer. Have a plan so you don’t waste this precious time! Plan in advance what you’re going to do at naptime. Then as soon as you can sneak away from them, run – don’t walk – and get ‘er done.

If you need longer stretches of uninterrupted time, you’ll have to make it happen with the help of someone else. Grandma, a friend, another work at home mom with whom you trade childcare, your spouse, a paid sitter. Personally, I found that it worked best for me to get the kiddo to sleep at night then sneak away and work until he/she woke up for his/her first night feed. It was usually several hours. We coslept so my husband was right there with them and could take care of any non-breast needs if they should arise. Working in the middle of the night may not be ideal, but it worked well for us.

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Get and stay organized

Keep a good to-do list. Keep your supplies well-organized. Keep your workspace organized. Keep a good, current calendar, and use email folders and labels, and all of those time management and organization tips. I know this doesn’t come naturally to some people, but let’s look at two people I know well. (OK, it’s me and my husband.)

One of us maintains a to do list. Several, actually. When I get up in the morning, I know exactly how I’m going to spend my work time that day. I also know what non-work tasks I need to accomplish. I mentally budget my time so I know, for example, that if I want to shower before dinner, I need to wrap up my work by 5:30. And I know that means I need to plan to wrap up by 5. When I’m working, I start at the top of my list and work my way down. While I’m finishing up one task, I look at what’s next and start mentally planning what I need for that. I move from one thing to the next thing to the next thing. And when I need tools, they’re right where I expect them to be, because I put them away when I was done using them.

The other of us does not use a to do list. Well, sometimes he does. In his head. He gets up and thinks about what he’s going to do for a while. Then he goes to see if he can find the things he needs to do whichever thing sounds best to him. That usually takes a while, and half the day’s usually gone by the time he’s gotten started. Once he’s finished one task, he sits down somewhere to decide what to do next. An hour later, he starts the next thing. He has no plan, so he doesn’t get as much done because he spends so much time trying to plan in the moment.

I’m not saying one way is better than the other… but one way is definitely more productive.

Make your workspace safe

Make your workspace safe for your baby or toddler and establish a special spot for them. Before my babies were able to crawl, I had a soft pad on the floor of my office and I dangled toys for them to play with from various office equipment. As they started rolling and scooting, we moved more toys down to my office, and as they became toddlers, they each had their own special spot in my office with crayons and a chalkboard, dolls and cars, whatever they were into.

I also caged them in, but not in a tiny playpen, which gets boring fast and isn’t quite what toddlers need developmentally. When my office was a more or less open space, I bought one of those long plastic modular baby fences and strung it up all around my area. When I moved my office into a room with a better doorway, we used a regular baby gate. I knew my office area was 100% safe for them, and I knew they couldn’t get out, so I could work in peace knowing they were safe and nearby.

Having them in your workspace also allows you to maintain verbal contact if you’re doing something that allows for that, which is a nice way to stay involved and interactive with your kids while still getting your work done. I primarily sew, so I can carry on a conversation with my kids while still working.


Nursing time is a great time to catch up on social media (if you do that as part of your work), to read relevant articles, or even to do desk work like accounting or blogging. It all depends on your breasts and your baby, though. I was always able to work with at least one hand while nursing (after that floppy head newborn stage), but some moms are not able to make this work. Try using a My Breast Friend pillow if you find you need more hands.

Yes, ideally, breastfeeding is a time of bonding and eye contact. Until your baby hits that stage where they’re distracted by everything. During that stage, I found that I basically had to ignore them if I wanted them to eat at all, otherwise it was an hour of smiles and spraying breastmilk around the room, but no actual eating took place.


I know moms who work from home and don’t babywear, but it’s so much easier with a carrier or two. I’ve used my carriers to enable me to:

  • wear and bounce an unhappy teething or sick baby while typing by elevating my laptop so I could easily reach it while standing, or by sitting and bouncing on an exercise ball.
  • Hold a child through his nap so he’ll stay asleep longer while I continue to work at my desk or my sewing machine.
  • Comfort a toddler who’s having one of those days when they just want to be held, but I have a hard deadline and can’t devote a day to JUST snuggles.
  • And of course all of the NOT work related uses.


Regular exercise helps you work better. Be mindful about giving your body attention – stretch, do some squats, take 3 minutes and jog in place. If you have toddlers, have a dance party with them, or run around the couch a few times. Babies and toddlers are pretty easy to exercise with!

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Do NOT get so focused on your work that you neglect the children that you’re staying home for. It’s so easy to get into this “ok, I’ll read to you after I do this. And this. And this.” But, much like with feeding and diaper changes, I found it worked better to stop what I was doing as soon as practical and take care of the need for attention right away. Not only did this reinforce to my kids that they are more important than work, but it also helped me be more productive when I was working. We kept a small stack of favorite books in my office, and the kids would grab one and climb up in my lap for a quick read a few times a day, which was enjoyable for us both. (And I can still recite my 15 year old’s favorite book from this time, lol. It was called A Little Spot of Color.)

Help your older toddlers learn about waiting

There are plenty of resources out there that can help you with this, but I started by simply teaching my children the ASL sign for “wait.” I started by choosing times when I was available immediately, and consciously chose to ask them (nonverbally) to wait, then waiting about 5 seconds before looking at them and addressing their need. I gradually lengthened this, and when that was going well, I added “can you wait five minutes?” to our repertoire. I tried not to push them beyond their capabilities, while stretching them JUST enough.

Using a visual timer can help a lot, too. I have a whole blog post about visual timers you might want to check out. Toddlers struggle with time concepts, and waiting even one minute can feel like forever, but if you use a visual timer, it helps them see the time passing.

Help your older toddlers play alone

Again, lots of parenting resources out there, but what worked for me was sitting down with my toddler to play, but letting them know that I’d need to stop after a little bit so I could do some more work while they kept playing. We’d play for a bit, then I’d stop playing but stay with them, then I’d get up and go back to work and let them play for a bit.

Stop Working

You can’t always be working. You have to not be working sometimes. Establish hard and fast rules for this for yourself. Do you have a morning playtime with your kids? No working during this time, not even if your phone chimes that you have a new message.

Are you enjoying dinner with your family? Again, no working during this time.

You cannot be available to your clients/customers/bosses 24 hours a day. Establish rules for when you are unavailable and stick to them. Reassess how you’re doing with this regularly.

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